Acceptance = Positive Emotion.

When someone is doing something in a way I don’t want it to be done and I am not able to accept it, I become angry. However, when someone is doing something in a way I don’t want it to be done but I am able to accept it, I remain tolerant.

When i encounter uncertainty and i am not sure about how I am going to handle it, and I am not able to handle it – it causes fear in me. When I encounter uncertainty and I am not sure about how I am going to handle it, but I am able to accept it – I feel adventurous.

When someone has done something that has emotionally hurt me and I am not able to accept it, it develops hatred in me. When someone has done something that has emotionally hurt me but I am able to accept it, it helps me forgive them.

When someone is present in my thoughts but is not physically present and I am not able to accept it, I say ‘I am missing you’. When someone is present in my thoughts but is not physically present and I am able to accept it, I say ‘I am thinking of you’.

Thus by this the emotional equation is quite simple….

Something + Acceptance = Positive Emotion

Something + Non- Acceptance = Negative

Emotion.

So, it is not ‘something’ or ‘someone’ who is making me feel positive or negative, but it is my ‘acceptance’ or ‘non- acceptance’ of something or someone that is making me feel positive or negative.

So, the next time I find myself disturbed by a negative emotion, instead of asking who or what is disturbing me, I will examine who or what I am resisting (not accepting). I will replace resistance (non acceptance) with acceptance, and the negative emotion will turn into a positive one.

Emotional management begins by stopping to blame ‘something’ or ‘someone’ and starting to take the responsibility to respond to life with ‘acceptance’.

By – Harshi Makani

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