It seems, “the need to be loved” rather than “the need to be pampered” is the greatest craving. What’s the difference?. To a lot of people being loved means their loved ones should always be soft with them, always agree with what they say, never complain, never push them beyond their comfort zones…..basically leave them as they are and not show any signs of wanting to change them. Pampering is – love me only the way I want to be loved.
Love is not love that pampers. Love is love that makes a difference. Pampering weakens you. Love creates you.
No man is perfect. There is endless scope to improve. Except those who love you, no one else cares about whether u improve or not. In the name of tolerance, pampering will leave u with imperfections. Even at cost of hurting your ego, love will give u feedback to make a difference to you. Pampering works on your ego. Love works on you.
No man can always be right. Love vill act as a mirror and reflect u to u – not as u want to be seen, but as u truly are. Pampering is a mere facade, wanting to appear nice. Love will take the risk of being mistaken and yet be a constructive critic.
Motivation level of most people are low. You need someone or something outside of j to push u. To demand – ‘Give more of urself to life’ is an intense expression of love. Pampering is like boozing. It gives u joyful evening, but nothing about u will change. Love is like meditation. Crave to be loved and to be created, and not to be pampered and allowed to stagnate.
Oh my beloved! I say to you, “My love may not come to u in the packaging you want. However, my love serves a purpose. It will create you”..
By – Harshi Makani.