Acceptance = Positive Emotion.

When someone is doing something in a way I don’t want it to be done and I am not able to accept it, I become angry. However, when someone is doing something in a way I don’t want it to be done but I am able to accept it, I remain tolerant.

When i encounter uncertainty and i am not sure about how I am going to handle it, and I am not able to handle it – it causes fear in me. When I encounter uncertainty and I am not sure about how I am going to handle it, but I am able to accept it – I feel adventurous.

When someone has done something that has emotionally hurt me and I am not able to accept it, it develops hatred in me. When someone has done something that has emotionally hurt me but I am able to accept it, it helps me forgive them.

When someone is present in my thoughts but is not physically present and I am not able to accept it, I say ‘I am missing you’. When someone is present in my thoughts but is not physically present and I am able to accept it, I say ‘I am thinking of you’.

Thus by this the emotional equation is quite simple….

Something + Acceptance = Positive Emotion

Something + Non- Acceptance = Negative

Emotion.

So, it is not ‘something’ or ‘someone’ who is making me feel positive or negative, but it is my ‘acceptance’ or ‘non- acceptance’ of something or someone that is making me feel positive or negative.

So, the next time I find myself disturbed by a negative emotion, instead of asking who or what is disturbing me, I will examine who or what I am resisting (not accepting). I will replace resistance (non acceptance) with acceptance, and the negative emotion will turn into a positive one.

Emotional management begins by stopping to blame ‘something’ or ‘someone’ and starting to take the responsibility to respond to life with ‘acceptance’.

By – Harshi Makani

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Types of people you and me will find at parties.

Hello guys…..wassup✋🏻 would like to discuss with you ‘Types of people found at parties“. So let’s begin.

1) The Clown:-

These are the types of people who are experts in cracking shitty and lame jokes. Literally they are just found in each and every corner of the party hall. ( It’s hard to tolerate them.😶)

2) The Hoggers:-

These are the types of people who are always found discussing about food items. As soon as they enter the first thing they want to do is go and check the menu list. ( Like come on parties are not always for eating food.) If you are foodie and you love food….rather make it at your home.😷

3) The Classy-Massy Prototypes:-

These are the types of people who make sure to look super classy and attractive wherein when they enter the party hall each and everybody literally slows down to just have a look at them from the top till the bottom. But, but on the other hand these are the only people who when open their mouth to talk they just fart (#their talks have no sense).

4) The Introverts:-

These are the kinds of people no matter how much you try but won’t get mix up with you at all. And at last you have to give up on convincing them.

5) The Drunkards:-

These are the kinds of people who just come to drink in the parties. You will always find them sitting in a corner with a glass of wine or maybe champagne (whatever it be) and then later on these are the people who can give you lots and lots of entertainment.

6) The ShowOffs (#TheKewlDudes):-

These are the kinds of people who try so hard to look so cool but end up showing off. I sometimes feel bad for them and feel like hugging them and saying ” It’s OK you look miserable so just stop your business of showing off dude”. But then sometimes i rather prefer standing there and laughing because i am an adult and I make good decisions.✌🏼😁

7) The Hitchhiker:-

There is this serious question i have with people as these are kinds of people who are always looking for the rides to home after the party. I would like to ask them “How did you end up there in the first place?”. Its like you reach someone to the party and you forget how to go back home as you are always looking for riders to drop you back home. Sometimes it’s not bad to drop someone home but until and unless that person is stuck up or unable to go home.

Alright guys, that were types of people you and me will always find at parties. See you soon with yet another interesting topic. Till then good bye.✋🏻

A relationship that matters you the most…

Hey guys, I am back with a new blog post. So let’s begin.

If you are happy in life right now, it’s not because everything about your life is necessarily going right, but because a relationship that really matters you the most is going great. On the other hand if you are unhappy in life right now, it’s not because everything about your life is going wrong, but because a relationship that really matters you the most is not going great. Blessed are those who have understood that they should be loving people and using things and not loving things and using people.

People keep faith and say relationships have to be nurtured and developed. They grow on their own accord. But when a relationship is left neglected, the expectations shakes the roots of relationships.

In a relationship, where there is substantial emotional reserve, mistakes will be tolerated and forgiven wherein the meaning will be understood even when communication is inadequate, your intentions will be appreciated even if you fall short in your actions. In all, the relationship will be good because you are considered good. And you are considered good because of the deposits you made to build emotional reserves in that relationship.

But on the other hand, there are relationships which are taken for granted where nothing works to nurture the relationship. Expectations continue to rise, but relationship still does not builds up on same continuity. The emotional reserves are overdrawn again and again.

In such a scenario, you will be held an offender for every work you speak; every move of yours will be judged; verbal battles and slammed doors will become regular occurrences; neither of your actions and intentions will be appreciated or respected. Such a relationship is like walking on a minefield- it blows up any time and many times.

Hence, I would end here by saying that always choose a relationship that helps you earn happiness in life and always matters you the most..

Pampering weakens you. Love creates you.

It seems, “the need to be loved” rather than “the need to be pampered” is the greatest craving. What’s the difference?. To a lot of people being loved means their loved ones should always be soft with them, always agree with what they say, never complain, never push them beyond their comfort zones…..basically leave them as they are and not show any signs of wanting to change them. Pampering is – love me only the way I want to be loved.

Love is not love that pampers. Love is love that makes a difference. Pampering weakens you. Love creates you.

No man is perfect. There is endless scope to improve. Except those who love you, no one else cares about whether u improve or not. In the name of tolerance, pampering will leave u with imperfections. Even at cost of hurting your ego, love will give u feedback to make a difference to you. Pampering works on your ego. Love works on you.

No man can always be right. Love vill act as a mirror and reflect u to u – not as u want to be seen, but as u truly are. Pampering is a mere facade, wanting to appear nice. Love will take the risk of being mistaken and yet be a constructive critic.

Motivation level of most people are low. You need someone or something outside of j to push u. To demand – ‘Give more of urself to life’ is an intense expression of love. Pampering is like boozing. It gives u joyful evening, but nothing about u will change. Love is like meditation. Crave to be loved and to be created, and not to be pampered and allowed to stagnate.

Oh my beloved! I say to you, “My love may not come to u in the packaging you want. However, my love serves a purpose. It will create you”..

By – Harshi Makani.

When was the last time I did something for first time??

For most people, life is always on repetitive mode. Waking up on same time, struggling in bed for few minutes before getting up, brushing the same way, drinking same coffee, reading same newspaper, a time bound bath, hurried breakfast, road rage on the way to work, gossip and lunch, same route back home, same mega serials, arguments and compulsive dinner, crash out and wake up another time to another day for same routine.

Life needn’t be mundane and boring. Life needn’t be a year’s experience repeated ‘n’ times. Life needn’t be an imposition. There’s more to life than existing.

Pursue a new challenge every year and see how exciting life can be. Let there not be a phase in your life when u aren’t enrolled as an active student. It could be music lessons, playing instruments, dance classes, alternative medicine, new fitness regimes and yoga, creative writing, public speaking, photography…..this list is truly endless. Choose any and remain an active student.

Always be an explorer of life. Keep experimenting. Keep trying. Attempt something that hasn’t been attempted before. Try out new cuisines. Wear clothes you are shy of wearing. Try new hairstyle. Spend a day blind-folded. Switch roles at your workplace- how about MD at reception for a day?. Again the list goes endless. Keep going.

More than all your successes, achievements and accomplishments, the formula to a lively life is to keep answering the question: when was the last time I did something for the first time?. Celebrate life. Spell life with L.I.F.E. Be excited to be alive.

By Harshi Makani

Experience to visit at Dubai

I didn’t know what to feel when my father announced that the family was going on a trip to Dubai over the Christmas holidays. The truth is Dubai has never been anywhere near my travel radar, which is why I had no idea what to expect. So it’s a bit ironic (in a good way) that I come home declaring it as one of my favourite cities I’ve ever visited so far. And while that statement might come into question if I ever get to experience the Arabian summer, the Dubai during the cold season was certainly perfect! I’ve been thinking long and hard on how I would go about writing my Dubai travel blog posts. I write about the trip from here on out.
Dubai is a beautiful city. The main city is extremely modern, but there are still areas where one can appreciate the “old Dubai”. Driving around feels a little like you’re driving in circles. Actually it reminds me a little of Singapore in that sense because it’s almost as if you take a few spins on different roads in the same area to get from one place to another. It’s really interesting to just watch the city pass by the car window and marvel at how unique the buildings here are. List of places we visited includes :

1)Atlantis The Palm Dubai.

Atlantis, The Palm is a luxury hotel resort located at the apex of the Palm Jumeirah in the United Arab Emirates.

2)Burj Khalifa

Burj Khalifa is a megatall skyscraper in Dubai, UAE. The architectural height of Burj Khalifa is 828 meters or 2717 feet. The highest occupied floor is level 154.

3)Burj Al Arab

The Burj Al Arab is a luxury hotel located in Dubai, United Arab Emirates. It is the third tallest hotel in the world.

Interior of burj al Arab.

4)Mall of the Emirates

For the record, the Mall of the Emirates was the only mall I got to walk around a little bit, so I have a couple of pictures of the mall itself, and it is gorgeous inside. I think it is my favourite in terms of interior design. I love the glass ceiling that lets in such ample sunlight. It was Christmas time when we visited so the decorations matched the season to a T. Dubai is touted as a shopping haven it made sense that I came across a lot of Filipino shoppers. It doesn’t really matter where we go, we always make it a point to visit the malls it seems. Here in Dubai however, the malls offer enjoyment beyond simply the pleasure of shopping.

5) Global village
Global village has various pavilions like India, Pakistan, Jordon, Germany, Iraq etc. Different pavilions describes about its unique culture and tradition.

6) The Grandest mosque of Abu Dhabi

Someone please pick my mouth up from the ground.

I’m trying to recall if I’ve ever been inside a mosque before, but I’m quite certain this is my first time being in one of this calibre. The Sheikh Zayed Grand Mosque is without a doubt a must-see when you visit Abu Dhabi. Whatever your religion might be, it doesn’t change the fact that this mosque is a work of art that deserves to be appreciated with an open mind. Hopefully my photographs will convince you.

Other places visited were Camel Safari, Dubai Museum and many more.

Now, coming to some of the cuisines that I enjoyed eating.

One of the food item that I like is cheese with bread for breakfast, and with these two stations filled to the brim, it’s enough to make anybody’s heart soar. I always say that how you take your breakfast can affect the rest of your day rather drastically. So while you’re on holiday, eat your favourite foods to your heart’s content right!? Apart from this there were many other amazing food items, but the list would go far long.

Here now, I come to end my blog by saying that it was my first best international trip I ever had in my dreams. Would love to visit it again whenever there’s a chance.

Can a boy and a girl be best friends? 

Yeah! According to me a boy and a girl can be best friends in the term as they want. Until and unless they share a perfect bond having true friendship, no other person has the authority to judge them in terms of their relation.

It’s high time that the gossip men’s and agony aunties stop judging every boy and girl they find as a couple. It is not necessary that every boy and girl are boyfriend and girlfriend of each other. I think not only relationship, nobody should be judged by its first appearance. Before judging, defining, commenting someone on basis of their personality, ethics, attiques etc try to give urself some time and patience to know that person in better manner rather than directly judging them in bad terms and making them feel embarrassed. That is the saying goes perfect that

“Never judge a book by it’s cover”